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As a paid personal care aide to my Grandmother, should I be expected to clean every moment she is asleep?
As a paid personal care aide to my Grandmother, should I be expected to clean every moment she is asleep?My Aunt pays me for the hours I spend with my Grandma, which enables me to have the time and energy that would not exist were I to find a " real" job. My Grandmother lives with in my Aunt's home along with my Aunt's husband and sons.When I began caring for my Grandma, she was still capable of beating me in chess. Her dementia and physical condition has reached the point where my duties have changed drastically from the days I was thinking of ways to keep her mentally stimulated. Now I am helping with the most basic of hygiene and safety. It used to be that my Aunt wanted me to limit Grandma's naps to 20 or 30 minutes so she doesn't sleep the day away. As her condition declines, she needs to sleep more and more.While I agreed a while back to do some basic cleaning such as tidying of Grandma's room, dusting and sweeping in her room, her bathroom, the laundry and folding her incontinence generates, the dishes she and I use, etc. I have no interest in being my Aunt's personal maid. From what I can gather, a personal aide should not have to clean up after the family's mess, just the person in need of care.My aunt believes that every moment for which I am being paid should be filled with work of some sort. Even if her room is reasonably tidy and I'm caught up on her laundry, if Grandma is napping then I am expected to find something that needs cleaning. If I read a book, then I am accused of slacking. My Aunt does not believe in paying for someone to be on stand by, ready at a moment's notice for when Grandma wakes up. Even if this enables my Aunt to pursue her business, whether by leaving the house or by having uninterrupted time in her office at home.How reasonable is my Aunt being? Am I being bratty and entitled trying to set the boundary of sticking to messes directly related to my Grandmother? Do home care aides have the obligation to stay busy every second if their charge does not need help at the moment?
If my dad had a stroke, and he needs to have personal care, but cant stay at home where should I look?
He is only in his 40's and he is in the hospital. the doctors don't know his full condition yet but they believe that there is going to be permanent damage... do i look into Assisted living communities or what?
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